Word Press Post A Day: Do you — or did you ever — have a Best Friend? Do you believe in the idea of one person whose friendship matters the most? Tell us a story about your BFF (or lack thereof).
Growing up, I was quite social. I can’t say I had one BFF. I had lots of friends, and some I hung out with quite more frequently though. Leah and Alex come to mind during my 4th and 5th grade years. I had started a new school and immediately found them to be great friends.
As I went onto 8th grade, I can honestly say that I did grow to have a best friend. Although I am not sure best friend is the right word…I think true friend is more accurate. She listened to me, cared about how I felt, and we did things together. Vicki was there for me when no one else was. Throughout my severe depression, she showed me that I wasn’t alone. I was extremely suicidal and I know she did not know how badly I felt this way, but her actions kept me from ever actually carrying out my plans. She literally saved my life in high school. I wasn’t social in high school, in fact I was pretty withdrawn because of my depression and past history of sexual abuse, I didn’t trust people. With Vicki though, I could be open and honest. She kept me strong and I got through high school and graduated. She was my best friend, but she was more than that – she was a true friend, and honest friend, a real friend.
I personally enjoy being a lone a lot of the time. I do however think that having someone to confide in it important. Isolation can lead to bad things. It can lead to depression. Loneliness is horrible. Many people might say they don’t need other people, they don’t need friends. I said that for a long time too, and still say that sometimes, but I am really just hiding the fact that I am scared to let people in. In fact, I wrote about this just the other day, how I longed for friendship, but didn’t know how to let anyone in. I am not sure it matters that you have one person as a friend who matters the most, and I don’t think that you should have a ton of friends, but I think if you at least have someone or a few people that you do trust and can go to and confide in or hang out with and have fun, that is what is important.